When I was a little girl, I loved listening to fairy tale stories at bedtime. Tinkerbell, Rose Red, Snow White, Cinderella. “The princess married the prince and they live happily ever after. The End.”
After university I had big dreams; landing a successful job, getting married, settling down and having a family. I wanted to live in a dream house near a big city.
Believe it or not, most of this came true.
But, not really in the way I expected. Life got busy with hectic work schedules, family events and after school programs. One day I woke up and realized I was not happy. Something was missing.
And then, at the stroke of midnight, everything fell apart.
I was lost. I was stuck. I could not move forward. I was afraid. I was alone.
I remember one night burying my head in the pillows.
But that wasn’t going to happen.
Instead I hired a life coach.
She didn’t come from a pumpkin or a magical cloud in the sky.
I researched life coaching and found a wonderful profile of a certified life coach with similar experiences to me. I found her on the Co-Active Training Institute website. I called her up and asked some questions.
This one decision completely changed my life. I was committed to making a change and I just needed someone to help me find clarity and guide me through the process.
Today I would like to share some tips that helped me make my decision to hire a coach.
A good coach is…
A Sounding Board. I was alone and felt I needed to be heard and understood. Most of my friends and family were not available and a little too opinionated. A good coach accepts us for who we are and listens without judgement. A good coach is an expert at being present and listening to you.
Curious. I was confused. My coach probed with deep questions that forced me to face my fears. I was hesitant in making decisions because my core values were not acknowledged. A good coach asks powerful questions that take us to a place where we connect with our inner core values.
Tough. While I knew she cared about me, she also challenged me, even dared me to step outside my comfort zone. For my career she asked me to conduct face to face, walk-in sales calls. A good coach recognizes our fears and challenges us to take risks. She also knows that we have the power to achieve anything.
Life would be exciting in a magical kingdom. Tall castles, mystical forests and wildflower gardens with fairies. But I am not a princess running from a dragon hoping a knight in shining armor will swoop me up and save me.
I am a naturally creative, resourceful and whole person with all the tools necessary to live a wonderful life.
I don’t need a knight, a wizard or a fairy Godmother.
But every now and then, a life coach helps.